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IMDB rating: 0.00 Plot: New Jersey Detective David Secca’s life is changed forever when he discovers a piece of film in an antique box. On the film is a lone man, concealing a rifle, standing on a grassy knoll-the exact knoll President John F. Kennedy passed as he was assassinated. But is the film authentic? Or, is it another hoax surrounding President Kennedy’s murder? When David seeks help in Professor Steve Lynde, it becomes horrifically clear the photo holds evidence of conspiracy. Now, the two must race to expose the cover-up before they’re eliminated. |
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Complicated issue with myself, weight gain/loss, and my husband?
Here’s the story:
Over our courtship, my weight fluctuated quite a lot (around 25lbs). When I was at the low end, I looked smokin’. When I was at the larger end, well not so smokin because I have a really small frame so that much weight is really noticeable. Now my husband has always maintained that he loves ME for ME and he will always love ME but…… his actions and his face and just his whole demeanour totally changed when I got big. He really shut down quite a bit, and he said that he still loved me but ‘would not be happy with someone overweight’ as a spouse. We had many huge arguments about it, and finally it just came down to "he won’t talk/ask about weight and I will just do what I need to do to lose it".
Well here we are. I have reached my goal weight (well very close to it), am looking pretty darn good again and have sorted some issues out to prevent me from bouncing back up. I feel so good about my hard work. My husband is thrilled. All of a sudden he treats me so much better, is happier, and just more ‘alive’. I find myself almost resenting him, because i felt somewhat deserted when I was at one of my low points.
So my quesion: Are my feelings valid here? Would you feel resentment/ticked off towards your husband who treats you one way when your +25lbs and another once you’re back in size 5? He is turned on a lot by me now and I can’t quite get the hurt out of my mind. Or am I simply nuts? 
Also I have tried to talk to my husband about him failing to support me and he just doesn’t understand how he isn’t being supportive, because he will buy me any gym memberships/health product at any time and sacrifice our personal time for my workouts. He just doesn’t understand his attitude is what hurt
Sweetie your aren’t nuts. Your husband is an asshole… im sorry but he is…..a husband should be there to support a wife no matter what she looks like or however big she is….That is sad that he did that. I would be crushed if my husband said that to me and then got turned on when I lost the weight. what a jerk. Sorry to be so mean but i am a little over weight not much but i think it is so mean when husbands get mad a wifes for being big. That to me isnt true love its just lust!
miss women | Nov 18, 2009
I think that your feelings are justified. It’s like Marilyn Monroe said "If you can’t love me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best." Your husband let you down in a way that will be very difficult to forgive. I would think about getting some counseling of some kind. You are not nuts. Your husband acted like an ass. If I were you, I wouldn’t put out again until he learns a little respect for you.
Frogi | Nov 18, 2009
That is complete BS! He is SHALLOW! Personally, I would have let him walk out the door with my shoe up his rectum. I do not care that he prefers me one way over another. I am like this so deal or get walkin! Yes I gained a lot of weight to, and my husband does not make me feel worse about it. That is the difference. I would resent him too if he acted like yours. I wouldnt care less about losing it if he was so pigheaded about it. But I want to lose weight, my husband didnt meet me like this, and he has been supportive despite my gain. I want to give him back at least part of my skinny inner self again. Your man is very shallow to put so much more happiness in your weight than if you are happy. He wants a trophy, not a person with feelings. Go buy him a barbie doll so he can take out his perfect wife when he wants it, and go find yourself a man that sees more in you then your size.
bubbles | Nov 18, 2009
He is a shallow person, and you’re feelings are the only ones that matter. If my husband acted like that if I gained 25 pounds I’d kick the shit out of him, and keep the weight just to spite him, and then hope that he tried to divorce me because I got fat. He’d get laughed out of the courtroom, and I’d get everything…tell your husband to stop being such a shallow ass hole and if he really loves you to shut the hell up about your weight.
Mariah | Nov 18, 2009
Ok…lets turn it around. He gained a lot of weight…would you be less attracted to him? Probably. You may not change as much of your demeanor around him if that happened…but you would feel slightly different.
Here is the thing…he is attracted to a smaller frame. men are more visual than women…we are more verbal. What if he decided to only talk about sports with you…you’d be turned off a bit. He may have approached it in the wrong way…but its how he felt.
I know you are feeling pretty sour about it…but then…talk to him. Tell him how hurt you are. Tell him that you want to look good for him but that you were at a low spot and he was not as sympathetic as he could have been.
He could have made changes: cooked more and made sure he made healthier foods. Suggested biking or hiking as a new hobby for both of you…you would lose weight by default but you would also spend time together and strengthen your relationship. Tell him that he needs to be nicer about your weight.
My fiance and I talked abotu weight gain over our marriage…My parents are both very skinny and his parents (adoptive) both gained a lot of weight after their marriage. His birth mom also was on teh larger size. His birth father is in excellent shape and he seems to have taken after that. I am small but have gained weight over the eyars that we have been togeher…he has also hit higer points with his weight. We just agreed that if one person gets larger…that both peoepl will work together until that person feels better abotu themselvs.
I explain that i want ot stay skinny and I want him skinnier because we will live longer! I am also very active…I hike, bike, run, he plays hockey and hikeand bikes with me. I grew up in karate and doing dance. We are active people and our weights are part of our lifestyles.
I know you resent that you husband feels that your are more attractive at a smaller size…but think fo the benefits it has given you…you will live longer and you probably feel great.
Like I said…talk to him and let him know how much he hurt you…let him know that your weight will probably fluctuate throughout your marriage and that if you get big you need to know that he will stick by your side while you get things under control. He better be himself during that time and maybe even more attentive!
ummm… | Nov 18, 2009
First of all you are not nuts. You are hurt as you feel insulted by your hubay when you were on the wrong side of your body weight. One feels good when one is unconditionally accepted by a loved one. Hd said he did, but then he didnt. You have every right to feel insulted and hurt.
But, you also must try to understand how human mind works. May be he is fixated with the idea that a wife should look trim and proper. It is this fixation in him which needs to be addressed and removed. What if he gains lot of weight tomorrow?
We must learn to give credence and respect to the character and the emotional innerself of a person rather thbn the external looks.
The Nice Man | Nov 18, 2009
No you are not nuts! However, you will have to lose the hurt feelings and resentment and get over it. Look at it from a different perspective. He actually did you a favor believe it or not. Over weight people end up having all kinds of different health problems later on in life. Like diabetes, heart disease, needing hips or knees replaced not to mention back problems and you really don’t want any of that.
Sometimes we all need to be corrected every once in a while and his turn will come soon enough but, now that you know the hurtful way to be corrected and you didn’t like it, maybe you will be a little easier on him.
Just food for thought.
Christopher | Nov 18, 2009
NO, you are not nuts! You are the SAME exact person regardless of what your weight is. You’re feelings are the same, you love him the same, everything IS the same except your exterior. You could mention to him how you do feel resentment twds. the way he treated you when you were heavier & a bit of support would have done you a world of good instead of giving you the feelings of being put down, let down. Remind him that you still had the very same feelings all along regardless of your situation of your weight problem. Now that you look good to him you feel as tho he’s treating you like a whole different person & it hurts thinking he didn’t look past the outer shell of you before…good for you for all your hard work…:)
Sue C | Nov 18, 2009
I would be hurt, but I kind of understand where he is coming from. I am a visual person and I would hate it if my husband gained 25 lbs of fat at 6′1". I’m not sure how tall you are though. He should still initiate sex when you are heavier, as long as you also initiate, but you cannot expect him to be happy with you if you are overweight. He should have been more subtle about it though. I fluctuate in my weight also and my husband is always the same exact weight. I feel less attractive when I am heavier and maybe you do too, and he is sensing that.
Michelle E | Nov 19, 2009
as a married husband of 30 years, I am sorry but I have to disagree with miss women at the top, the lust in a marriage is what keeps us coming back, thats what a man wants and needs to be happy in a marriage. Many if not all men are visually fixated and appearance plays a very important part of their sexuality. It doesnt mean that he doesnt love you as much if your appearance changes drastically because of weight gain, but there may be an underlying sense of disappointment that may take something out of the relationship…many men can get beyond it but its not easy in our visual oriented society. To use another example…Imagine if your husband lost his job and was unable to hold a decent one for an extended period of time,you would still love him as its not totally his fault, but you might also begin to express some disappointment as well over a period of time and it could have a corroding effect on the relationship. I know there are those above who would disagree vehemently with me but I feel that many men would feel that same sense of disappointment at a sizable weight gain that became, or seemed to be, permanent. Also women seem to find their love for their partners from within more then men do, although who knows, maybe this is changing these days…..but as I said ladies, dont diss the lust because its the lust that keeps us happy for many years.
MZT | Nov 19, 2009
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